Why So Many Deny The Depth Of Their Dependence

Why So Many Deny The Depth Of Their Dependence

A dependence upon drugs or alcohol is an issue countless people struggle with. It leads to a whole raft of issues that many do their best to hide.

It would appear to those without such problems that the easiest thing in the world would be to seek professional treatment designed to overcome such issues.

While such thoughts are eminently sensible there are serious hurdles an addict must face up to before the healing process can commence. These reasons will not be fully appreciated by those without such problems, but are crystal clear to those whose substance abuse currently has the better of them.

Two major reasons why so many resist treatment:

Many negative issues surround addiction and contribute to a strong reluctance amongst those with dependence problems from seeking help, but we will concentrate on two that are so powerful they prevent rational thinking.

It is vital for those currently addicted to fully appreciate the significance of these two factors and to acknowledge them sooner rather than later. Failure to do so will lead to ever deepening dependence with a corresponding rise of the potentially devastating consequences that await.

Both reasons have 2 separate strands to them. The first two-pronged factor is ‘Denial’:

General Denial:

Addiction treatment professionals have long known that denial is a huge factor in terms of initially fueling and then consistently deepening dependence. They also know that the more advanced dependence becomes the more difficult it is for the addict to beat their problems.

Unfortunately, as a person’s dependence deepens their denial strengthens. If confronted by those closest to them regarding their substance abuse they will deny such facts, play down the seriousness of the situation and stubbornly refuse to discuss the matter

While such a negative attitude is of no benefit an even more worrying form of denial continues to go unchecked. This is:


This stance is taken by the addict to calm their own, ever-increasing concerns relating to dependence. They will work hard to repeatedly convince themselves that increasing use and dependence is something they can control, and that when they are ready to stop they will be able to do so, but ‘now’ is just not the right time.

The link between regular substance abuse and dependence go hand-in-hand, and the chances of anyone simply stopping use without professional guidance and assistance are very slim indeed.

The second reason denial plays so strongly on an addicts reasoning is ‘Fear’. Again, this can be broken into two strands:

Fear of living without your substance of choice:

Addiction is not an overnight experience, but as it grows so does a person’s thoughts and needs. This often develops into an all-consuming exercise of just how ‘good’ they feel after a recent hit, when the next one will be, and the crucial planning of where their next ‘score’ will come from.

By admitting to themselves that their dependence is out of hand and professional help is required means they are stepping over a line that leads to a deep and very worrying fear. This relates to exactly how they will cope without access and regular use of a substance that is very much part and parcel of their daily life.

Fear of what rehabilitation involves:

The thought of either regular appointments with rehab professionals as an outpatient, or the much more focused decision to spend time as an inpatient at an established rehab centre is a journey into the unknown. This can cause anxiety and fear over what to expect as well as what is expected of you.

Anyone worrying over these issues must resolve to speak in confidence with a rehab counsellor. Many of these dedicated professionals have been in that dark place you currently find yourself, and in the case of an inpatient stay they will be able to explain why this is seen as the most positive way to begin your long-term healing and the many benefits such an establishment offers.

Dependence – A problem that cannot be ignored:

The reality of regular substance abuse is that you are leaving yourself wide-open to dependence. The longer you refuse to accept this, the deeper your dependence will become.

The personal, physical and psychological effects can be devastating and that is before you consider the distress and angst you are causing those closest to you.

There is nothing to be ashamed of by admitting drugs or alcohol currently have the better of you. Indeed, this acceptance to yourself and subsequent contact with a rehab professional is something that is an absolute must for those with serious intentions of kicking their habit.